Change never comes to those who wait. We cannot change by remaining who we are. Change comes to those who day in and day out do their best to improve their lives, change behavior, rid themselves of unhealthy habits, and stay motivated to be consistent, setting goals for themselves & sticking to plans. Change requires us to recognize our failures and do our best daily to be the best version of ourselves, by bettering ourselves everyday. Change comes to those who not only care about others but also themselves. Always see the glass half full, thinking in terms of what you do have, not what you have not.
When life gets difficult it is not uncommon for you to be forced to take on Multiple Roles which require you to maximize your potential without becoming burnt out. This requires that you maintain balance, practiced by adherence to common courtesies, etiquette, and abide by rules governing the organizations to which you apply your skill set, and your ability to meet performance goals. Nothing done well is done with haste always with careful planning and arduous practice of principles that dictate rights from wrongs and what is considered normal, common, acceptable behavior. No one ever said acceptance by all is required for achievement, but acceptance from within is, that can only be achieved by a strong belief in self, knowledge of values to be maintained, and purpose driven by goals appreciated by others not just for one’s own self. Living selflessly for the benefit of others is often required of us to achieve goals in life, the helping professions requires you put the needs of others before your own, and practice self care to ensure that you are able to perform to the best of your ability, and avoid burn out. When burnout occurs it is always okay to take a break and refrain from participation, regroup or start a different project to rebuild momentum and prepare yourself for tasks of higher importance, be efficient by practicing & fine tuning your skillset.
People will judge you if you allow them to. It’s not my job to make better relationships that go sour, not by my doing, not my responsibility. I’m not a peacemaker, nor a peacemaker, I’ve been put in the position to fight for what beliefs, ideas, opinions, lessons, protocols, and trainings I’ve been given to do my part to ensure peace is possible. Law enforcement has the job to maintain the peace, I am not law enforcement. Laws ensure that peace is made, as an advocate (certified crisis hotline counselor) my job is to ensure resources are provided when necessary and to whom, who is in need, what is urgent, what is necessary, what is enough, based upon my professional understanding of the matter, based on what I feel is needed to be said, discussed, of issue, of concern based upon what I read is of concern by parties who have been affected by violence, to whom I empathize as I am directly affected as a dedicated advocate, who does her best daily to maintain self, professionalism, required to provide aide to those in need, which includes people in control of vulnerable populations, at risk populations, and populations of concern, to whom advocacy is, should be required, which resources for coping are provided, and investigated for preventative measures as it applies to the present circumstances.
We cried, we laughed, we have so much to be thankful for. In order for anything to be possible we must first have a belief in oneself, that such goals can be accomplished. Rarely on our own or left to our own devices but while given a hand by another. Always be thankful for those who never left you astray, believed in you, and made you feel special. Only together can such lofty goals as peace be accomplished. It only takes a second to lose footing, but lifetimes to achieve. Always be appreciative of those who have helped guide us in the right direction, without whom we would still be lost. It’s times like these we show gratitude, honor, & respect for those who have fallen while fighting to protect the lives we lead. Never wait for the right moment to be of service, but always do your best to contribute thoughtfully as best you can, it takes many to rise to lift the fallen, and one to shine brighter than the rest to give hope, never lose faith in oneself. You can’t start over in life, you can only pick up the pieces and make due with positions handed to you, not everything in life is a choice. The only way to undo patterns that break us is to see beyond. We see best when things are right, we freeze when somethings off, and we rest when things get done. Always trust those who protect you from harm, enjoy not just the end result, but always have an appreciation for the work that led to those moments of closure & peace. What we recall repeats, what we learn transpires, what we fear is avoided, and what we see gets dictated to us to protect us from harm. See by those you trust, listen to those who protect, and accept those who have yet to reach peace from within and realize their potential. It’s to each’s own responsibility to do what is right, follow directions, and lead no one astray. When everyone gives up on you, the only one there for you when you are lost is often a stranger, I feel lucky to have been mentored by someone of great strength, compassion, and patience, without whom I would not have made it this far, or been able to be there for others, with confidence given to me by my education gifted to me and trust given by him to lead online. What I’ve learned is when you feel right, when others are scared, best to speak up, share your mind, and help not base your self worth on things or jobs, your fitness is by your health & accomplishments not always by acceptance. So long as you know the difference between right and wrong, you should have nothing to fear, including the opinions & criticisms shared by others, should not change you but make you stronger. Always be there for those who were there for you when you were down, lost, or dreaming.
Take it easy on yourselves. You only have one life to live. At least you have your friends, family, co-workers, and gym buddies -where would we be without a little comradere in life. Getting fit is the first step toward self-love, to look good, feel good, and be on the outside as loveable as we feel on the inside. Sometimes our appearances don’t match how we feel, and that’s okay. So long as you continue to set goals for yourself, challenge yourself day in and day out to be the best version of yourself you can be, you’ll be well on your way to happiness, living a life enjoyed not loathed, enthusiastic not depressed, positive not moody, and feel loved not repressed in self-hate. Remind yourself this is your life, no one else’s, how you live is a direct reflection of yourself, how much you care, and your self-worth. Be who you want to be around, someone you love as much as your significant other. Always rising to the occassion, on time, present, and aware of others, not locked in your own world. Life is a process, trust those around you, and take it one step at a time without backtracking or hesitation. Never give up on yourself, and others, be there for those you love and well enough to enjoy lifes blessings, appreciative. Life’s best lived present.
When you’re on your own, and not socializing, you hear a lot of voices, sometimes negative, either about yourself or others, it can drive you insane. Any negativity, unless you’ve got the stomach for it is annoying, at least when you’re depressed and trying to stay positive about yourself and others. In order to have a positive attitude you need to achieve, and in order to stay positive you need not worry what others think, think your own thoughts not theirs. That doesn’t mean only worry about yourself, not others, in fact putting the needs of others before your own is helpful when you’re going through a difficult time, to concentrate less on yourself & your problems & be more in active productive, helping others is simply one way of being productive that translates to feeling better about yourself and others, less worried about what others think about you or in general. Always concentrate on your own thoughts, if negative from where do those voices come from and why, to what issues trigger those replies you hear in your head, if negative ask yourself why & deal with those feelings piecemeal, one at a time until you find a strategy for overcoming that feeling & the corresponding emotion or voices that follow. Always be in control of your mind, know your body, how it responds, and what you need to do self care wise to maintain stability so that negativity does not overpower you cause you to self harm. Love you first, loving yourself means staying proactive & disciplined when it comes to self care, the less you care about yourself the less others will care about you. Always rise above, in your head not others, on your path not question another’s, live your dream not another’s, think your thoughts not what others think, and most of all care always for others and yourself, the more accepting you are of others the easier it will be to challenge, overcome, & not be easily affected by any voices including ones produced on your own.
The hardest part about being alone is learning how to love yourself anyways, without the added reassurance from a significant other, or others. It’s like going through withdrawals, an addiction. We get so used to being codependent that we forget how to be on our own. That doesn’t mean you’re weak, you’re just used to feeling good only when able to make another feel good, or another making you feel good. What about feeling good on your own? This we forget sometimes, how to when in a relationship. It’s always okay to take a step back & breathe, get away from the chase, hustle & bustle of courtships & maintaining composure. Test your strength on your own, not rely upon the rejection of another to turn around and look at yourself for a change. If you’re where you need to be at personally, no one will ever make you feel forced to work on yourself. The more you take responsibility for your feelings, and take the initiative to better yourself, the better off you’ll be.