Nothing lasts forever, and everything is temporary. It’s all about perspective. Education is key to your understanding. Where you see yourself, in relation to others, is a direct reflection of yourself education & experience in life. You are what you read and learn. Confidence comes through exposure, the more you can relate to different settings, the more capable you’ll be of blending in and feeling comfortable with yourself. Comfort is achieved by knowledge, knowledge is achieved by a combination of education & experience. Therefore if you’re lacking confidence the best way to get strong is to travel, try new things, read, and explore different settings to help adjust your own. While adjusting your settings, you learn how to better control not only how you perceive yourself in relation to others, but also how to strengthen your sense of self in relation to others. Confidence issues and insecurity occur when you compare yourself to others. Love yourself enough to know that you are perfect just the way you are. Start there and everything else should fall into place.
Life is all about routine. Whether it’s practicing healthy habits, focusing on skincare, or going to the gym weekly, you get to decide what needs to get done to feel your best. What makes you feel complete? Do you have trouble sleeping at night? What do you need to do to get to where you want to be in life? What keeps you going and motivated? These are great questions to ask yourself whenever you feel, lonely, irritable, and lost. Means you’re not where you’re supposed to be in life and falling behind. Catching up is easy when you set goals, hard when you waste time looking back in regret. Get on point, by establishing a routine that helps you function best, it’s never too late to start over or build a new you. Don’t beat yourself, follow step by step guides, read Self-help books, get a trainer or life coach, join a gym, do whatever it takes to get going again. The worst thing you can do is to stop everything and mourn the loss of who you were, love yourself now and do what you can to repair yourself, don’t look back, keep moving forward, routine is everything! What you do now, will determine where you end up in life, always focus on the present, to lift yourself up to where you need to be to get going again.
We cried, we laughed, we have so much to be thankful for. In order for anything to be possible we must first have a belief in oneself, that such goals can be accomplished. Rarely on our own or left to our own devices but while given a hand by another. Always be thankful for those who never left you astray, believed in you, and made you feel special. Only together can such lofty goals as peace be accomplished. It only takes a second to lose footing, but lifetimes to achieve. Always be appreciative of those who have helped guide us in the right direction, without whom we would still be lost. It’s times like these we show gratitude, honor, & respect for those who have fallen while fighting to protect the lives we lead. Never wait for the right moment to be of service, but always do your best to contribute thoughtfully as best you can, it takes many to rise to lift the fallen, and one to shine brighter than the rest to give hope, never lose faith in oneself. You can’t start over in life, you can only pick up the pieces and make due with positions handed to you, not everything in life is a choice. The only way to undo patterns that break us is to see beyond. We see best when things are right, we freeze when somethings off, and we rest when things get done. Always trust those who protect you from harm, enjoy not just the end result, but always have an appreciation for the work that led to those moments of closure & peace. What we recall repeats, what we learn transpires, what we fear is avoided, and what we see gets dictated to us to protect us from harm. See by those you trust, listen to those who protect, and accept those who have yet to reach peace from within and realize their potential. It’s to each’s own responsibility to do what is right, follow directions, and lead no one astray. When everyone gives up on you, the only one there for you when you are lost is often a stranger, I feel lucky to have been mentored by someone of great strength, compassion, and patience, without whom I would not have made it this far, or been able to be there for others, with confidence given to me by my education gifted to me and trust given by him to lead online. What I’ve learned is when you feel right, when others are scared, best to speak up, share your mind, and help not base your self worth on things or jobs, your fitness is by your health & accomplishments not always by acceptance. So long as you know the difference between right and wrong, you should have nothing to fear, including the opinions & criticisms shared by others, should not change you but make you stronger. Always be there for those who were there for you when you were down, lost, or dreaming.
When you’re on your own, and not socializing, you hear a lot of voices, sometimes negative, either about yourself or others, it can drive you insane. Any negativity, unless you’ve got the stomach for it is annoying, at least when you’re depressed and trying to stay positive about yourself and others. In order to have a positive attitude you need to achieve, and in order to stay positive you need not worry what others think, think your own thoughts not theirs. That doesn’t mean only worry about yourself, not others, in fact putting the needs of others before your own is helpful when you’re going through a difficult time, to concentrate less on yourself & your problems & be more in active productive, helping others is simply one way of being productive that translates to feeling better about yourself and others, less worried about what others think about you or in general. Always concentrate on your own thoughts, if negative from where do those voices come from and why, to what issues trigger those replies you hear in your head, if negative ask yourself why & deal with those feelings piecemeal, one at a time until you find a strategy for overcoming that feeling & the corresponding emotion or voices that follow. Always be in control of your mind, know your body, how it responds, and what you need to do self care wise to maintain stability so that negativity does not overpower you cause you to self harm. Love you first, loving yourself means staying proactive & disciplined when it comes to self care, the less you care about yourself the less others will care about you. Always rise above, in your head not others, on your path not question another’s, live your dream not another’s, think your thoughts not what others think, and most of all care always for others and yourself, the more accepting you are of others the easier it will be to challenge, overcome, & not be easily affected by any voices including ones produced on your own.
The hardest part about being alone is learning how to love yourself anyways, without the added reassurance from a significant other, or others. It’s like going through withdrawals, an addiction. We get so used to being codependent that we forget how to be on our own. That doesn’t mean you’re weak, you’re just used to feeling good only when able to make another feel good, or another making you feel good. What about feeling good on your own? This we forget sometimes, how to when in a relationship. It’s always okay to take a step back & breathe, get away from the chase, hustle & bustle of courtships & maintaining composure. Test your strength on your own, not rely upon the rejection of another to turn around and look at yourself for a change. If you’re where you need to be at personally, no one will ever make you feel forced to work on yourself. The more you take responsibility for your feelings, and take the initiative to better yourself, the better off you’ll be.
How to Overcome Mental Illness:
You can wonder all your life, what could’ve been or you can start living your life right now. For a long time Ive struggled with mental illness, Ive even attempted suicide and been hospitalized on multiple occassions, on 5150 holds for harm to self (swallowed a bottle of kolonopin and cut my wrist). People come and go from your life it may have nothing to do with you. Let them go. There is so much left for you to live for in life, its not about what you have in life its about what you make of yourself with what you do have in your life. You shouldnt need people in your life in order to achieve, feel whole, or apart of. There are plenty of ways to integrate yourself in society on a professional level, other than socializing by going out drinking & doing drugs. Why social media is a great outlet for people trying to stay sober & not isolate, besides going to meetings with other alcoholics. You become who you surround yourself with. Online that can be anyone, there are so many professionals online to be exposed to, learn from, and grow with. Your friends will always be there for you when well, have faith that when you do find yourself professionally that either they or new friends will come into your life once you put yourself out there again, sharing your life & experiences, with careful thought not impulsive in the moment problem solving in the thick of it -is when you’re most likely to be misunderstood -others stand off ish. The most well adjusted become the most successful, why because their balanced demeanor translates to their work ethic and ability to produce and get their work done necessary to achieve professionally. -Stop living in the past -or worrying about what other people think of you. People only know what you tell them & from what you tell them judgment is past. Stop hearing judgments, and instead hear yourself. Stop listening to what other people think, and instead hear yourself. Write until all you hear is yourself. Write until all you hear is positive, and read until you become again who you are not what other people think or say, and let your work speak for itself.
Does it really matter what people think of you? Does it really matter how well liked you are? Of course it does, but all within reason. Never to the extent that you have to sacrifice who you are in order to fit the mold of who you think you should be or who others expect you to be. Always be yourself, acceptance comes over time. It’s not easy to love anyone who does not yet love themselves. It may be acceptance from others you seek, when really the problem is lack of acceptance of self. Blaming others is never the solution to your problems. The best way to overcome any problem & take back control over your life is to face your fears & let go of expectations and accept yourself as you are, perfect or broken, then begin to put yourself back together again. Acceptance doesn’t require perfection it merely requires patience, understanding, and love -love for yourself & all that you were, could be, and are as is.