No matter how hard you try you cannot control the past, or another’s interpretation of past events. The only thing you can control is your reaction to the past and the opinions shared by others. What will be will be. Meaning focus on the present, let the past be the past, and the future for you to decide. You can only control two things, your present and your future. Focus on those two things more than reflecting on past scenarios, best to prepare now for the future setting goals that reflect your understanding of the past, processed, and how you’ve been able to let go and move forward in a more positive direction. Don’t let anyone or anything hold you back from living your best life, including your past.
Nothing lasts forever, and everything is temporary. It’s all about perspective. Education is key to your understanding. Where you see yourself, in relation to others, is a direct reflection of yourself education & experience in life. You are what you read and learn. Confidence comes through exposure, the more you can relate to different settings, the more capable you’ll be of blending in and feeling comfortable with yourself. Comfort is achieved by knowledge, knowledge is achieved by a combination of education & experience. Therefore if you’re lacking confidence the best way to get strong is to travel, try new things, read, and explore different settings to help adjust your own. While adjusting your settings, you learn how to better control not only how you perceive yourself in relation to others, but also how to strengthen your sense of self in relation to others. Confidence issues and insecurity occur when you compare yourself to others. Love yourself enough to know that you are perfect just the way you are. Start there and everything else should fall into place.
We cried, we laughed, we have so much to be thankful for. In order for anything to be possible we must first have a belief in oneself, that such goals can be accomplished. Rarely on our own or left to our own devices but while given a hand by another. Always be thankful for those who never left you astray, believed in you, and made you feel special. Only together can such lofty goals as peace be accomplished. It only takes a second to lose footing, but lifetimes to achieve. Always be appreciative of those who have helped guide us in the right direction, without whom we would still be lost. It’s times like these we show gratitude, honor, & respect for those who have fallen while fighting to protect the lives we lead. Never wait for the right moment to be of service, but always do your best to contribute thoughtfully as best you can, it takes many to rise to lift the fallen, and one to shine brighter than the rest to give hope, never lose faith in oneself. You can’t start over in life, you can only pick up the pieces and make due with positions handed to you, not everything in life is a choice. The only way to undo patterns that break us is to see beyond. We see best when things are right, we freeze when somethings off, and we rest when things get done. Always trust those who protect you from harm, enjoy not just the end result, but always have an appreciation for the work that led to those moments of closure & peace. What we recall repeats, what we learn transpires, what we fear is avoided, and what we see gets dictated to us to protect us from harm. See by those you trust, listen to those who protect, and accept those who have yet to reach peace from within and realize their potential. It’s to each’s own responsibility to do what is right, follow directions, and lead no one astray. When everyone gives up on you, the only one there for you when you are lost is often a stranger, I feel lucky to have been mentored by someone of great strength, compassion, and patience, without whom I would not have made it this far, or been able to be there for others, with confidence given to me by my education gifted to me and trust given by him to lead online. What I’ve learned is when you feel right, when others are scared, best to speak up, share your mind, and help not base your self worth on things or jobs, your fitness is by your health & accomplishments not always by acceptance. So long as you know the difference between right and wrong, you should have nothing to fear, including the opinions & criticisms shared by others, should not change you but make you stronger. Always be there for those who were there for you when you were down, lost, or dreaming.
Take it easy on yourselves. You only have one life to live. At least you have your friends, family, co-workers, and gym buddies -where would we be without a little comradere in life. Getting fit is the first step toward self-love, to look good, feel good, and be on the outside as loveable as we feel on the inside. Sometimes our appearances don’t match how we feel, and that’s okay. So long as you continue to set goals for yourself, challenge yourself day in and day out to be the best version of yourself you can be, you’ll be well on your way to happiness, living a life enjoyed not loathed, enthusiastic not depressed, positive not moody, and feel loved not repressed in self-hate. Remind yourself this is your life, no one else’s, how you live is a direct reflection of yourself, how much you care, and your self-worth. Be who you want to be around, someone you love as much as your significant other. Always rising to the occassion, on time, present, and aware of others, not locked in your own world. Life is a process, trust those around you, and take it one step at a time without backtracking or hesitation. Never give up on yourself, and others, be there for those you love and well enough to enjoy lifes blessings, appreciative. Life’s best lived present.
You can try to plan all you want for the future but sometimes things do not always turn out as we had planned. When things don’t turn out the way you expect them to, either because your judgment is off or the judgments held towards you are, something better will always come along. Everything happens for a reason, things can only get worse for so long until they become better, have faith in that process. In order to learn from your mistakes and grow as a person, you must realize what it is that you can be doing better, what it is that you do well, and what it is that is keeping you from achieving your goals in life. No one can change for you when you experience failure, that is something you must figure out on your own. Know your strengths when weak and focus on what you have when you feel lost, and you will always find your place in life. You are only off center for as along as you allow negativity & failure to keep you from moving forward, when you are most centered occurs when mindful of your needs as well as the needs of others, and everyone around you achieving, including yourself. This is not always the case, but when it occurs, appreciate those moments in life and never take them for granted. You should not only do as well as those around you, you should always be able to achieve in life with or without the comradere of success, you are not required to lead when up or teach once accomplished, but you are always required to be humble once you get there. In order to help others you must first help yourself. Success comes to those who are patient & disciplined. Just because one plan doesn’t work for success does not mean everything is a failure, learn to roll with the punches, sit with what you’ve got, and learn from your mistakes -building from within what is lost until everything you think and feel comes to fruition in life for you, nothing achieved comes by surprise but by careful planning, steady progress, and a willingness to adapt to changes along the way which determines your success. You are defined not by failures, but by what you achieve in spite of failure, which way you go when you hit a hurdle in life demonstrates your strength of character, whether you go up or down in life when met with hardship.
With help from friends anything is possible, and nothing is as difficult as it seems. The better we listen to one another, the better we can help eachother overcome obstacles standing in the way of Peace. Fighting is not the solution. Passivity is not the solution either. Direct communication is best, listening from trusted sources and speaking to them directly about your concerns, and to share your ideas. This is not my methodology, but by my Crisis Hotline manual, I was taught that in order to resolve any conflict it’s best not to talk through people, but speak directly to those in charge, not drag unecessary third parties into a conflict that can be resolved through direct communication rather than talking about someone, to speak directly to them. That was my understanding of how to quickly deal with a problem, not make things worse, and how I have managed to get involved with Gun Violence Prevention Campaign efforts, and speak now in a trusted supervised space. I’m not manic. I’m not power tripping. I have no desire to be famous, I’m an Influencer by Credentials not for self promotion or Business Goals separate from #BloggingCampaign #BradyCampaign & #MomsDemand. I’ve been trying for 4 years now to grow my Campaign, and have finally found success, able to settle down & blog now to my Audience. I am very thankful for #NoNameVentures #TaylorAdamsAM for listening to my pitch & guiding me by interview questions the important things to focus on, by what was asked of me, is what I focused on, my responses, and from there I left with an Outline -a plan of Action. What were ideas walking into the meeting, came to fruition finally because I shared my ideas, and by sharing my ideas out loud, I became confident, with confidence I was able to follow through, and finally find success with some guidance & supportive listener. Who encouraged setting realistic goals over personal endeavors, and told what was needed to build a database online & write -followers. That I have achieved, why I’m focusing on writing for research purposes, Self-help purposes, more than Entertainment purposes which I’ve been doing for 3 years & recently changed focus. Hope that explains why I was a Comedian & now a Volunteer Quotes Blogger & Researcher to Mom’s Demand & Friend to Brady Campaign. Our needs are different now because my role has changed, I’m in a structured environment now since pitching to the President of Brady Campaign LA. I learned how to be a MultiGenre Writer in my Upper Division Writing Course at #CUBoulder. I wrote how I felt at the time. I’ve been through a lot and had no support for #BloggingCampaign ridiculed considered an embarrassment because I was a Writer Online, of content not valued by those who insulted me. Not understanding the broad goal of making friends to help Influence & spread awareness by means I was able to at the time, based on ability, confidence level, & academic achievement put together a Campaign and a few basic principles to grow from, start from. Music was the first jumping off point, we have grown since #BradyMusicCampaign in terms of acceptance & can now help Influence in other ways on a broader set of terms, deal with problems as they arise, to prevent violence & or worsen conflict. New goal is to be a good listener & problem solver by setting a good example & by sharing helpful ideas out loud, because sharing out loud in December 2015 helped me get this far, to 400k+ Followers on Facebook for a Month continuously, writing Quotes as Planned December 2015. I said I see myself doing something with Quotes.
How to Overcome Mental Illness:
You can wonder all your life, what could’ve been or you can start living your life right now. For a long time Ive struggled with mental illness, Ive even attempted suicide and been hospitalized on multiple occassions, on 5150 holds for harm to self (swallowed a bottle of kolonopin and cut my wrist). People come and go from your life it may have nothing to do with you. Let them go. There is so much left for you to live for in life, its not about what you have in life its about what you make of yourself with what you do have in your life. You shouldnt need people in your life in order to achieve, feel whole, or apart of. There are plenty of ways to integrate yourself in society on a professional level, other than socializing by going out drinking & doing drugs. Why social media is a great outlet for people trying to stay sober & not isolate, besides going to meetings with other alcoholics. You become who you surround yourself with. Online that can be anyone, there are so many professionals online to be exposed to, learn from, and grow with. Your friends will always be there for you when well, have faith that when you do find yourself professionally that either they or new friends will come into your life once you put yourself out there again, sharing your life & experiences, with careful thought not impulsive in the moment problem solving in the thick of it -is when you’re most likely to be misunderstood -others stand off ish. The most well adjusted become the most successful, why because their balanced demeanor translates to their work ethic and ability to produce and get their work done necessary to achieve professionally. -Stop living in the past -or worrying about what other people think of you. People only know what you tell them & from what you tell them judgment is past. Stop hearing judgments, and instead hear yourself. Stop listening to what other people think, and instead hear yourself. Write until all you hear is yourself. Write until all you hear is positive, and read until you become again who you are not what other people think or say, and let your work speak for itself.