Life is all about routine. Whether it’s practicing healthy habits, focusing on skincare, or going to the gym weekly, you get to decide what needs to get done to feel your best. What makes you feel complete? Do you have trouble sleeping at night? What do you need to do to get to where you want to be in life? What keeps you going and motivated? These are great questions to ask yourself whenever you feel, lonely, irritable, and lost. Means you’re not where you’re supposed to be in life and falling behind. Catching up is easy when you set goals, hard when you waste time looking back in regret. Get on point, by establishing a routine that helps you function best, it’s never too late to start over or build a new you. Don’t beat yourself, follow step by step guides, read Self-help books, get a trainer or life coach, join a gym, do whatever it takes to get going again. The worst thing you can do is to stop everything and mourn the loss of who you were, love yourself now and do what you can to repair yourself, don’t look back, keep moving forward, routine is everything! What you do now, will determine where you end up in life, always focus on the present, to lift yourself up to where you need to be to get going again.
When you’re on your own, and not socializing, you hear a lot of voices, sometimes negative, either about yourself or others, it can drive you insane. Any negativity, unless you’ve got the stomach for it is annoying, at least when you’re depressed and trying to stay positive about yourself and others. In order to have a positive attitude you need to achieve, and in order to stay positive you need not worry what others think, think your own thoughts not theirs. That doesn’t mean only worry about yourself, not others, in fact putting the needs of others before your own is helpful when you’re going through a difficult time, to concentrate less on yourself & your problems & be more in active productive, helping others is simply one way of being productive that translates to feeling better about yourself and others, less worried about what others think about you or in general. Always concentrate on your own thoughts, if negative from where do those voices come from and why, to what issues trigger those replies you hear in your head, if negative ask yourself why & deal with those feelings piecemeal, one at a time until you find a strategy for overcoming that feeling & the corresponding emotion or voices that follow. Always be in control of your mind, know your body, how it responds, and what you need to do self care wise to maintain stability so that negativity does not overpower you cause you to self harm. Love you first, loving yourself means staying proactive & disciplined when it comes to self care, the less you care about yourself the less others will care about you. Always rise above, in your head not others, on your path not question another’s, live your dream not another’s, think your thoughts not what others think, and most of all care always for others and yourself, the more accepting you are of others the easier it will be to challenge, overcome, & not be easily affected by any voices including ones produced on your own.
When you experience any type of loss in life, its devastating. I’ve lost every Man I’ve loved to other Women or ideas of perfection & beauty, undervalued not appreciated, treated as not good enough. That type of loss, is a loss of self, self esteem, and confidence. There’s a difference between between that kind of loss, superficial and the loss of a person or life of a loved one. Do not confuse the two, there’s a big difference. No matter how much loss I’ve endured in life, I’ve been taught to always see the positive & be appreciative of what I do have in life. People cannot be replaced, clothes, boyfriends and anything else superficial can be replaced, no loss so grave as worthy of causing a loss of self, or esteem so grave ad to cause loss of confidence resulting in hardship & failure deemed permanent. If it could lift you up, you can lift yourself up, if it supported you, you can support yourself, if it gave you shelter from negativity, you can shelter yourself from negativity. No loss should result in loss of control of self. You are always able to rebuild yourself if you try, focus on people not things, and value one another’s worth, not devalue one another for superficial means that you should already be able to provide for yourself.
The past is the past. Don’t ever feel guilty about doing what’s best for you. Leave your troubles behind you, there is so much to be excited for in life. We all have our ups and downs. That’s a normal part of life, not everyday will you be at your best, and some days you’ll be tired wishing you were in bed all day. We all have to try hard, & push ourselves day in & day out. Life’s all about making & keeping healthy habits in life that help us to function best under all conditions. So “stop thinking about what could go wrong & start thinking about what could go right.”
Just worry about you. Do your best not to worry about why anyones quiet or not productive or why this why that it could be nothing you turn into something just because it matters to you to hear something when nothing need be said whatever then comes out is never what’s expected. That’s why we are told to just leave things alone sometimes and just let people be. If a situation is uncomfortable -interrupting the life of anyone for explanation to your discomfort is selfish, never a product of the behavior of others but of your own, by what you chose to pay attention to in life, is what bothers you. What needs consoling us never the responsibility of others unless medical professionals you go to for help, then in those cases should your discomfort be remedied by your expression of self not by the expression of another you trigger. That only aggravates others not help alleviate trauma or discomfort. RULE #1: YOU HAVE TO LET OTHERS COME FORWARD AT THEIR OWN PACE AND WHEN THEY ARE READY YOU CANNOT FORCE SOMEONE TO COME FORWARD WHO DOES NOT WANT TO SPEAK OR TALK ABOUT WHAT’S BOTHERING THEM.
Love is like water, refreshing -when plentiful you sparkle, and when overwhelmed by you drown or suffocate. Just like water, manage your time. When you have all the time in the world you don’t rush and when you have little time you speed through life. Life should be lived sparingly like water, or used sparingly like water, not abused. When we abuse our lives, waste our time, or waste the time of others, we abuse a privilege that is water, time, and and/or life. However you see it, know that these gifts requiring constant monitoring to preserve, and as a resource for self-betterment and happiness we should appreciate and value them the same, by giving more time, using less, and not put to waste.
You can spend your whole life wondering or you can spend the rest of your life living. It’s your choice, decision how you choose to spend your time on earth. You only get one earth suit in life take good care of it and don’t complain later in life if your earth suit tattered and battered up is preventing you from living your best life. Everyone has the ability to look and feel their best. It’s nothing to do with genetics or health problems, with meds, and by following proper weight management tips you too can have the life and body you deserve. For a long time I struggled with weight, it seemed impossible -played soccer and ran never lost a pound. Then I started eating vegetables and lost 50lbs. Now living my best life at 30 the center of attention and with newfound confidence I never had before in life. Inspired by myself and inspiring others daily to keep trying and never give up. Image matters, but mostly to you, please yourself first before trying to please others, at your best is when you are strongest and only you know and can determine what your best is -dont let anyone tell you differently, or make you feel like you’re not good enough cause mental illness and self destructive behaviors, it’s so not worth it.