Nothing lasts forever, and everything is temporary. It’s all about perspective. Education is key to your understanding. Where you see yourself, in relation to others, is a direct reflection of yourself education & experience in life. You are what you read and learn. Confidence comes through exposure, the more you can relate to different settings, the more capable you’ll be of blending in and feeling comfortable with yourself. Comfort is achieved by knowledge, knowledge is achieved by a combination of education & experience. Therefore if you’re lacking confidence the best way to get strong is to travel, try new things, read, and explore different settings to help adjust your own. While adjusting your settings, you learn how to better control not only how you perceive yourself in relation to others, but also how to strengthen your sense of self in relation to others. Confidence issues and insecurity occur when you compare yourself to others. Love yourself enough to know that you are perfect just the way you are. Start there and everything else should fall into place.
Life is all about routine. Whether it’s practicing healthy habits, focusing on skincare, or going to the gym weekly, you get to decide what needs to get done to feel your best. What makes you feel complete? Do you have trouble sleeping at night? What do you need to do to get to where you want to be in life? What keeps you going and motivated? These are great questions to ask yourself whenever you feel, lonely, irritable, and lost. Means you’re not where you’re supposed to be in life and falling behind. Catching up is easy when you set goals, hard when you waste time looking back in regret. Get on point, by establishing a routine that helps you function best, it’s never too late to start over or build a new you. Don’t beat yourself, follow step by step guides, read Self-help books, get a trainer or life coach, join a gym, do whatever it takes to get going again. The worst thing you can do is to stop everything and mourn the loss of who you were, love yourself now and do what you can to repair yourself, don’t look back, keep moving forward, routine is everything! What you do now, will determine where you end up in life, always focus on the present, to lift yourself up to where you need to be to get going again.
Never reveal your weaknesses in public. Weaknesses are used to judge you in the negative and test your character, your worries are your own, never share your worries or questions about others including yourself in life. What you have yet to figure out for yourself about yourself is no one’s business but your own. What you like, who you like, and you you’ve liked is your business no one else’s. People interested in digging for dirt, only dig for information to justify their negative judgments of you, without a complete understanding for why you are the way you are, prefer you outcasted to better themselves, appear better than, stronger then, to intimidate you when really it’s the other way around, they’re intimidated by you but unwillinging to admit your happiness and success threatens them, that’s why women attack women. Women attack women to put others down in order to look, feel, and appear better than superior to. Why, because the only thing that makes insecure women feel better than others, is to look better than others. Women secure with themselves don’t need looks or to worry about Image in order to get a man and keep a man. It’s what’s inside that counts, personality and confidence are everything.
When you’re off on your own, it’s easy to get discouraged, and lose faith. Always keep yourself busy. We lose faith in ourselves and others usually when we are not confident, not disciplined, needy, and feeling less than or not good enough. Part of finding confidence and stability requires you to be okay on your own and fearless. Afterall it’s easier to be around someone who is stable rather than someone who is tripping. Usually unstable people are viewed as being problematic or risky, and quickly disassociated from, that’s normal, that’s business. People who are caretakers tend to be more empathic & understanding, not concerned with image and risk, more concerned with helping others, strengthening those around them. So when you’re down be understanding that not everyone is going to be willing to help you, and that’s okay, some people are not going to be there for you and that’s okay too. Don’t take anything in life too personally, just always do your best to be thankful & grateful for those that do help you get back to normal.
You cannot expect other people to be happy for you when you are. Be careful not to allow the unhappiness of others to affect your self esteem. Always do your best to lift yourself before helping others. You are your first priority. You cannot help others until you are able to first help yourself. Otherwise it’s more likely than not, that you will be easily affected by others, drained when trying to help them. Get strong first. Once you are strong, then you can make a positive difference.
How to Overcome Mental Illness:
You can wonder all your life, what could’ve been or you can start living your life right now. For a long time Ive struggled with mental illness, Ive even attempted suicide and been hospitalized on multiple occassions, on 5150 holds for harm to self (swallowed a bottle of kolonopin and cut my wrist). People come and go from your life it may have nothing to do with you. Let them go. There is so much left for you to live for in life, its not about what you have in life its about what you make of yourself with what you do have in your life. You shouldnt need people in your life in order to achieve, feel whole, or apart of. There are plenty of ways to integrate yourself in society on a professional level, other than socializing by going out drinking & doing drugs. Why social media is a great outlet for people trying to stay sober & not isolate, besides going to meetings with other alcoholics. You become who you surround yourself with. Online that can be anyone, there are so many professionals online to be exposed to, learn from, and grow with. Your friends will always be there for you when well, have faith that when you do find yourself professionally that either they or new friends will come into your life once you put yourself out there again, sharing your life & experiences, with careful thought not impulsive in the moment problem solving in the thick of it -is when you’re most likely to be misunderstood -others stand off ish. The most well adjusted become the most successful, why because their balanced demeanor translates to their work ethic and ability to produce and get their work done necessary to achieve professionally. -Stop living in the past -or worrying about what other people think of you. People only know what you tell them & from what you tell them judgment is past. Stop hearing judgments, and instead hear yourself. Stop listening to what other people think, and instead hear yourself. Write until all you hear is yourself. Write until all you hear is positive, and read until you become again who you are not what other people think or say, and let your work speak for itself.
He’s one of those guys you’d love to love. Better than a trophy, he’s got the whole package. When he looks at you, you melt, and when you walk away from him you feel torn. He makes you feel good, excites you, and leaves you in wonder. He doesn’t question you, he let’s you grow, and he sees your potential to do better in life. He’s controlling but loving, he sets boundaries but let’s you explore, and he never ignores you. He’s the kind of guy you admire introduce to parents & chase, a catch. He’s the kind of guy who loves to love but within reason, always focused on Career. He’s difficult, stubborn, and hard headed but genuine, sincere, and caring. Never too faced, always up front, explains well, a good listener. He’s someone you grow with, never get tired of, because he’s about others not himself. He always tries his hardest to be there for others, and too hard on himself. He values people not things and knows his limits. He’s a great leader and someone very special to me. Taught me how to be patient, change, love myself, & grow even after you give up on yourself, realize mental illness is not a permanent condition but a product of who I interact with, what I choose to believe, & what I hear. Since talking to him daily, my conditions improved, my mind has quieted, and I look forward to life now, not ashamed or helpless. I write, stay home, stay sober, work, & hope to finish school. He’s my voice of reason when I’m lost & sounding board when I’m flying, and keeps me grounded. He’s the perfect amount of normal, and accepts me the same even though he met me when I was troubled & lost. His friendship has made all the difference & I’m so thankful I met him. He’s more than my love, but my favorite hashtag #TaylorAdamsAM.