Change never comes to those who wait. We cannot change by remaining who we are. Change comes to those who day in and day out do their best to improve their lives, change behavior, rid themselves of unhealthy habits, and stay motivated to be consistent, setting goals for themselves & sticking to plans. Change requires us to recognize our failures and do our best daily to be the best version of ourselves, by bettering ourselves everyday. Change comes to those who not only care about others but also themselves. Always see the glass half full, thinking in terms of what you do have, not what you have not.
We cried, we laughed, we have so much to be thankful for. In order for anything to be possible we must first have a belief in oneself, that such goals can be accomplished. Rarely on our own or left to our own devices but while given a hand by another. Always be thankful for those who never left you astray, believed in you, and made you feel special. Only together can such lofty goals as peace be accomplished. It only takes a second to lose footing, but lifetimes to achieve. Always be appreciative of those who have helped guide us in the right direction, without whom we would still be lost. It’s times like these we show gratitude, honor, & respect for those who have fallen while fighting to protect the lives we lead. Never wait for the right moment to be of service, but always do your best to contribute thoughtfully as best you can, it takes many to rise to lift the fallen, and one to shine brighter than the rest to give hope, never lose faith in oneself. You can’t start over in life, you can only pick up the pieces and make due with positions handed to you, not everything in life is a choice. The only way to undo patterns that break us is to see beyond. We see best when things are right, we freeze when somethings off, and we rest when things get done. Always trust those who protect you from harm, enjoy not just the end result, but always have an appreciation for the work that led to those moments of closure & peace. What we recall repeats, what we learn transpires, what we fear is avoided, and what we see gets dictated to us to protect us from harm. See by those you trust, listen to those who protect, and accept those who have yet to reach peace from within and realize their potential. It’s to each’s own responsibility to do what is right, follow directions, and lead no one astray. When everyone gives up on you, the only one there for you when you are lost is often a stranger, I feel lucky to have been mentored by someone of great strength, compassion, and patience, without whom I would not have made it this far, or been able to be there for others, with confidence given to me by my education gifted to me and trust given by him to lead online. What I’ve learned is when you feel right, when others are scared, best to speak up, share your mind, and help not base your self worth on things or jobs, your fitness is by your health & accomplishments not always by acceptance. So long as you know the difference between right and wrong, you should have nothing to fear, including the opinions & criticisms shared by others, should not change you but make you stronger. Always be there for those who were there for you when you were down, lost, or dreaming.
When you’re on your own, and not socializing, you hear a lot of voices, sometimes negative, either about yourself or others, it can drive you insane. Any negativity, unless you’ve got the stomach for it is annoying, at least when you’re depressed and trying to stay positive about yourself and others. In order to have a positive attitude you need to achieve, and in order to stay positive you need not worry what others think, think your own thoughts not theirs. That doesn’t mean only worry about yourself, not others, in fact putting the needs of others before your own is helpful when you’re going through a difficult time, to concentrate less on yourself & your problems & be more in active productive, helping others is simply one way of being productive that translates to feeling better about yourself and others, less worried about what others think about you or in general. Always concentrate on your own thoughts, if negative from where do those voices come from and why, to what issues trigger those replies you hear in your head, if negative ask yourself why & deal with those feelings piecemeal, one at a time until you find a strategy for overcoming that feeling & the corresponding emotion or voices that follow. Always be in control of your mind, know your body, how it responds, and what you need to do self care wise to maintain stability so that negativity does not overpower you cause you to self harm. Love you first, loving yourself means staying proactive & disciplined when it comes to self care, the less you care about yourself the less others will care about you. Always rise above, in your head not others, on your path not question another’s, live your dream not another’s, think your thoughts not what others think, and most of all care always for others and yourself, the more accepting you are of others the easier it will be to challenge, overcome, & not be easily affected by any voices including ones produced on your own.
Always best to be conservative in your approach, never to mock, mimic, categorize, role play, cite to, cliche, take on any roles or positions that give way for inference of any inside jokes. Always be weary that was is like, gets compared, and what is similar to gets judged more critically. The greater the likelihood of occurance, the higher the scrutiny, the less likely the occurance, the more lenient of judgments are passed. Be careful not to omit information in the public eye, as information omitted is deemed inference for weakness, or at issue, not recollected out loud so as to hide or conceal information. Must remember every statement made and and make clear, or later clarify previous statements made within the context of the given discussion, with directions as to how related if related at all, and whether important to what degree and towards what conclusion. These are not general defenses in life when it comes to public speaking, but are important pin points for reference when every statement by you is made, what to keep in mind, to protect yourself from harm and unreasonable assumptions made and inferences as to your purpose, your life, your identity, your causes, and your disposition in life now in terms of how it differs from your circumstances prior, always explain yourself, your current condition, and anything relative to understanding all sides better, not just your own.
Never reveal your weaknesses in public. Weaknesses are used to judge you in the negative and test your character, your worries are your own, never share your worries or questions about others including yourself in life. What you have yet to figure out for yourself about yourself is no one’s business but your own. What you like, who you like, and you you’ve liked is your business no one else’s. People interested in digging for dirt, only dig for information to justify their negative judgments of you, without a complete understanding for why you are the way you are, prefer you outcasted to better themselves, appear better than, stronger then, to intimidate you when really it’s the other way around, they’re intimidated by you but unwillinging to admit your happiness and success threatens them, that’s why women attack women. Women attack women to put others down in order to look, feel, and appear better than superior to. Why, because the only thing that makes insecure women feel better than others, is to look better than others. Women secure with themselves don’t need looks or to worry about Image in order to get a man and keep a man. It’s what’s inside that counts, personality and confidence are everything.
When you experience any type of loss in life, its devastating. I’ve lost every Man I’ve loved to other Women or ideas of perfection & beauty, undervalued not appreciated, treated as not good enough. That type of loss, is a loss of self, self esteem, and confidence. There’s a difference between between that kind of loss, superficial and the loss of a person or life of a loved one. Do not confuse the two, there’s a big difference. No matter how much loss I’ve endured in life, I’ve been taught to always see the positive & be appreciative of what I do have in life. People cannot be replaced, clothes, boyfriends and anything else superficial can be replaced, no loss so grave as worthy of causing a loss of self, or esteem so grave ad to cause loss of confidence resulting in hardship & failure deemed permanent. If it could lift you up, you can lift yourself up, if it supported you, you can support yourself, if it gave you shelter from negativity, you can shelter yourself from negativity. No loss should result in loss of control of self. You are always able to rebuild yourself if you try, focus on people not things, and value one another’s worth, not devalue one another for superficial means that you should already be able to provide for yourself.
You can try to plan all you want for the future but sometimes things do not always turn out as we had planned. When things don’t turn out the way you expect them to, either because your judgment is off or the judgments held towards you are, something better will always come along. Everything happens for a reason, things can only get worse for so long until they become better, have faith in that process. In order to learn from your mistakes and grow as a person, you must realize what it is that you can be doing better, what it is that you do well, and what it is that is keeping you from achieving your goals in life. No one can change for you when you experience failure, that is something you must figure out on your own. Know your strengths when weak and focus on what you have when you feel lost, and you will always find your place in life. You are only off center for as along as you allow negativity & failure to keep you from moving forward, when you are most centered occurs when mindful of your needs as well as the needs of others, and everyone around you achieving, including yourself. This is not always the case, but when it occurs, appreciate those moments in life and never take them for granted. You should not only do as well as those around you, you should always be able to achieve in life with or without the comradere of success, you are not required to lead when up or teach once accomplished, but you are always required to be humble once you get there. In order to help others you must first help yourself. Success comes to those who are patient & disciplined. Just because one plan doesn’t work for success does not mean everything is a failure, learn to roll with the punches, sit with what you’ve got, and learn from your mistakes -building from within what is lost until everything you think and feel comes to fruition in life for you, nothing achieved comes by surprise but by careful planning, steady progress, and a willingness to adapt to changes along the way which determines your success. You are defined not by failures, but by what you achieve in spite of failure, which way you go when you hit a hurdle in life demonstrates your strength of character, whether you go up or down in life when met with hardship.