You can try to plan all you want for the future but sometimes things do not always turn out as we had planned. When things don’t turn out the way you expect them to, either because your judgment is off or the judgments held towards you are, something better will always come along. Everything happens for a reason, things can only get worse for so long until they become better, have faith in that process. In order to learn from your mistakes and grow as a person, you must realize what it is that you can be doing better, what it is that you do well, and what it is that is keeping you from achieving your goals in life. No one can change for you when you experience failure, that is something you must figure out on your own. Know your strengths when weak and focus on what you have when you feel lost, and you will always find your place in life. You are only off center for as along as you allow negativity & failure to keep you from moving forward, when you are most centered occurs when mindful of your needs as well as the needs of others, and everyone around you achieving, including yourself. This is not always the case, but when it occurs, appreciate those moments in life and never take them for granted. You should not only do as well as those around you, you should always be able to achieve in life with or without the comradere of success, you are not required to lead when up or teach once accomplished, but you are always required to be humble once you get there. In order to help others you must first help yourself. Success comes to those who are patient & disciplined. Just because one plan doesn’t work for success does not mean everything is a failure, learn to roll with the punches, sit with what you’ve got, and learn from your mistakes -building from within what is lost until everything you think and feel comes to fruition in life for you, nothing achieved comes by surprise but by careful planning, steady progress, and a willingness to adapt to changes along the way which determines your success. You are defined not by failures, but by what you achieve in spite of failure, which way you go when you hit a hurdle in life demonstrates your strength of character, whether you go up or down in life when met with hardship.