You cannot expect other people to be happy for you when you are. Be careful not to allow the unhappiness of others to affect your self esteem. Always do your best to lift yourself before helping others. You are your first priority. You cannot help others until you are able to first help yourself. Otherwise it’s more likely than not, that you will be easily affected by others, drained when trying to help them. Get strong first. Once you are strong, then you can make a positive difference.